Cross Culture Understanding (Honesty value)

What is honesty?

Honesty is telling the truth.

Honesty is straightforward conduct.

Honesty is being sincere, truthful, trustworthy, honorable, fair, genuine, and loyal with integrity.

Honest, trusting kids:

Tell the truth despite consequences

Voice their opinion in a kind, thoughtful way

"Tell on" someone only when necessary

Show and share their feelings

Know their classmates and teachers care and want the best for them

Feel and react without guilt

Express themselves positively as well as critically

You are being honest when you ...

Do your own homework

Tell a friend the truth

Explain the real reason you didn't turn in your homework

Keep your eyes on your own paper

Clean up your room after making a promise

Give the cashier the extra money she gave you by mistake

Write a report in your own words instead of copying

Admit you made the mistake

Keep a friend's secret

Turn in a wallet full of money that you found

Honesty in family

Here's an example of honesty. Let's say you've discovered that your nine-year-old child shoplifted some candy at the grocery store. Let me give you two scenarios.

A: 
Mom: (In an accusatory voice) Where did you get that candy?
Child: I found it in my pocket.
Mom: Did you steal it from the store?
Child: No, I didn't!
Mom: I think you did. Your sister just told me she saw you take it. And now you're lying to me too.
Child: No, she's lying. I didn't take it.
Mom: Well, then where did you get it? Now you're going to get punished twice-once for stealing and once for lying to me.

B: 
Mom: I see that you have some candy. But I didn't buy that for you and your sister just told me that she saw you take it off the shelf when we were in the store.
Child: (Looks down)
Mom: I don't believe in tattling, and I've told your sister that. But it's also important not to steal. And it's just as important that we don't lie to each other. You know we're a family that really values honesty. You trust me and I trust you.
Child: I didn't mean to. It just happened.
Mom: I know, Honey. The temptation is so great. But I'm so proud of you for telling me the truth. That's a hard thing to do and I appreciate it so much. Now, let's get going back to the store. I'll stand by your side while you return the candy.

three tips to help your kids learn honesty:

1. Talk with your children-beginning very early- about how much you value honesty in your family.

2. Model honesty for your children-not only in your words but also in your lifestyle.

3. Let them know that you put more emphasis on their honesty than on the punishment for their dishonest behavior.

Honesty in work place

1. Get Credibility, A Rare Commodity

When honesty is at work with you, you gain credibility. Credibility is a rare commodity at work nowadays.

2. Gain Respect With Actions

Not words, it reminds me of a poem I learned as a kid, “A man of words and not of deeds is like a garden full of weeds…” When you practice honesty at work with your actions and not false promises and false excuses,

3. People Have Faith In You

By this, I truly mean faith. You will somehow gain faith of people who may not even have worked with you. They buy into your plans and your words

4. Others Will Use Sincerity

Your dealings at work will be a lot cleaner in all sense of the word; there are no cover ups, no half lies and no opportunity for such a condition where lies are needed to begin with. This is because of the environment you have created for yourself and the office.

5. Truth Usually Meets With Truth

How many lies does it take to refute a truth? A lot. Then the lies need to be covered up with lies. The best way to ‘beat’ honesty is to use the truth. It is for this reason, one of the best benefits for being honest is you will meet with truthful people as well.

6. The Benefit Of Blamelessness

When you are honest, you have the benefit of blamelessness. This blamelessness protects you from evil politicking colleagues. While you have to suffer their back stabbing for a while, eventually you will come out the winner.

7. A Sense Of Security

If you feel vulnerable for bringing honesty at work, then you have got the concept wrong. You need to change your perspective. Honesty protects you, not hold you back or gets you into trouble. If honesty is not tolerated in your workplace and does not give you a sense of security, you are at the wrong place. You should be making plans to leave the company.